Have you ever found yourself feeling utterly alone, terrified, and unsure of where to turn during an episode of physical abuse? I know how hard it can be to seek help when you feel trapped and afraid. I’ve been there—faced with a situation that spiralled out of control, leaving me scared for my life, unable to reach out to anyone, and with nowhere to go.

In this blog, I want to share my experience and guide you through the process of healing from physical abuse. It’s not easy, but you can release the pain, rebuild your confidence, and prepare yourself for a healthy, loving relationship with the right steps.

1. Feel the Pain to Heal the Pain

One of the most crucial steps in healing from physical abuse is allowing yourself to feel the emotions that come with it fully. It’s natural to want to shut out the pain, but resisting these emotions will keep them trapped within you, manifesting as anxiety, depression, or even physical illness.

Find a safe space where you can be alone and undisturbed. Close your eyes and let yourself recall the painful memories. Remember where you were hurt and let those emotions come to the surface. Cry, scream, or do whatever you need to express the pain fully. Feeling the pain is the first step towards releasing it and healing.

2. Release Your Anger

After acknowledging the pain, it’s essential to release the anger and resentment you may have towards your abuser. Anger is a powerful emotion, and when it’s bottled up, it can consume you, affecting every aspect of your life.

Allow yourself to express this anger healthily. You might want to talk to the parts of your body that were hurt, apologising and reassuring them that they are loved and worthy. Scream into a pillow, punch it, or yell at the top of your lungs—do whatever feels right to let that anger out. The key is to let it flow through you and out rather than keeping it inside where it can fester.

3. Talk About the Abuse

One of the hardest things to do after experiencing physical abuse is to talk about it. There’s often a sense of shame or embarrassment, especially if you’re trying to protect your abuser or if you blame yourself for what happened. But keeping silent can prevent you from fully healing.

Talking about your experience with trusted friends or family can help you process the abuse and begin to see it for what it truly was—not your fault. Remember, as Neale Donald Walsch said, “What you truly look at disappears.” By speaking about your pain, you allow it to lose its power over you. However, be mindful not to dwell on the abuse for too long, as continually revisiting the pain can keep it alive.

Take the First Step Toward Healing

Beautiful woman, you don’t have to live with the pain of physical abuse any longer. By feeling the pain, releasing your anger, and talking about your experience, you can begin to heal and prepare yourself for a life filled with love and joy. Healing is a process, and while it may take time, know that it’s possible to move forward and find the happiness you deserve.

Remember, physical abuse is never acceptable, and my intention for this blog is to help you heal, not to excuse or condone such behaviour. If you ever feel threatened, please seek help immediately by contacting a local women’s refuge or support service.

I would love to hear how these steps have helped you—please share your thoughts in the comments below. And if you’re looking to empower yourself and create fulfilling, loving relationships, join my community of incredible women. We meet regularly to support each other, learn, laugh, and grow together. Click here to discover more.